Expectations...
I was told, "living upto someone's expectations is a real tough task.." and with years adding to my friendship with life, this belief is getting stronger each day. Sometimes I get a feel that this friendship itself is too demanding!
Right from the time you open your eyes, early morning, the mesh of expectations starts building a fresh new thread. You expect your day to be good and interseting. You expect to reach on time and catch the bus. You stand in the ticket line and the person behind you expects that you get done with your stuff as quickly as possible while the one at the counter expects you have the right change and your day begins....There are countless tasks to be accomplished and hence there are countless encounters with different people from different faculties of interests. Each interaction builds up a relationship which has varying degrees of expectations.
The few of these that we are really aware of (or rather are kept aware of) are the ones from our loved ones: family, friends, teachers, bosses (not really fit into 'loved ones category :D ) and I guess that's almost natural in all "humans". The more we know a person there's an unspoken bond that gets stronger by the time and we never realise when we actually start "expecting" out of that relationship. Infact most of them originate on the very foundation of expectation...some realistic some not so realistic.
Normally we are so used to this way of life that we dont even realise it to be the way it is. Its only when these expectations conflict and we have to deal with the pressure, that we start feeling the chain tightening around us. The real tough times are those when Your interests and someone else's expectations collide. There's always a question of either this or that and we wish these words "choice or choose" never existed! We struggle our ways out, sometimes being smart enough to find a trade-off but sometimes its just a feeling of helplessness that stays behind and life goes on..
Leave aside dealings with the world outside, the saying goes perfect with the world within. Doesn't the 'I' expect a lot from 'Me'? I think, the struggle is tougher and more consuming in this inner world. Its me against me. No choice is good enough and nothing gets better. Its like, the more you love yourself the more you hate yourself. You gauge yourself against your own scale and you always have this eternal scope for there are no real boundaries! Thats why probably I find myself completing the statement "...but its tougher to live upto one's own expectations!"
posted by zero-state at 6:44 PM
5 Comments:
Man is born free, and everywhere he is in shackles.
-Jean Jacques Rousseau
Well most people suffer cuz they dont see the bigger picture. Instead of trying to expect something from urself try outperforming yourself, its easy and much more fulfilling...
Personally I feel that living upto someone else's expectation is much more challenging, most of the time it's just irrational...
Imagine a world without expectation. Everyone will sink into a peaceful calm, everyone will be saints... Expectation keeps the world moving... I think instead of complaining u should enjoy it.
1. This post was not meant to complain about anything, it was just a realization that found its way out through words.
2. Outperforming oneself is the next step to expectation. You expect yourself to reach to some heights and then you go for it. It is very much a conscious delving and cannot happen unless you expect and desire.
3. As you yourself mentioned it as "irrational", why should one ever get so serious about living upto someone else's expectation? If you get the logical foundation for it, then its a part of yours! So, ultimately its the self code that rules!
hmmm...
Well accept my humble apologies for (1)
Regarding (2).. If one is sane enough and knows his limits, he wont expect more than he can perform. Well expectation is there..and its healthy because it makes out a better person out of us.
3)We try to live upto the expectations of the people who are closer to our heart (some goons do it for public)... we expect ourselves to meet their expectations. This is difficult as they dont know our limits..
The bottom line, as you pointed out, is that its the self code that rulz.
:-)
Actually both of us are trying to say the same thing, just that you think I am cribbing about it.
What I have to say, if put in one line, shud be:
"Its a challenge and a thrilling experience to walk on self guided path!"
truth being told....beautifully embellished and brutely honest.
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